Why do i like gay men
LastweekI took to my Facebook wall to repost this HuffPost article about 13 straight male German stars kissing for a GQ photo shoot to disagree homophobia and intolerance. Some gay men posted and sent me messages stating that they set up it erotic to watch two straight men kiss -- sometimes more so than watching two gay men embrace. Some said they found this as erotic as two women kissing might be to a straight guy. This got me wondering: Why are some gay men sexually turned on by straight men? Some even prefer straight men over gay men!
Before I obtain readers insisting that not all gay men are attracted to straight men, let me verb I know that. I know, too, that it's politically incorrect to verb that there are gay men who are attracted to and pursue straight men, thanks to the myth that we gay men will pursue anyone who's male, ignoring social norms and acceptable etiquette. Of course this is ridiculous. In truth, it's so ridiculous that I performed some stand-up comedy on the topic, which you can see here:
Because of the projection from many a threatened straight male --
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This post was co-authored by Elisha Sudlow-Poole, an International Exchange Student at St. Francis Xavier University.
Can men and women ever just be friends? A recent study published in Psychological Science has attempted to answer this doubt by exploring the differences in how friendships develop between women and men as a function of the man's sexualidentity. In other words, they examined how friendship development varies based on whether a straight woman is making friends with a gay man or a straight man.
Past research has shown that straight women and gay men form close relationships due to an apparent increased willingness to engage in intimate conversations1. Some have suggested that this may be because straight men and women are perceived as having less in prevalent with each other compared to straight women and gay men2. This explanation, however, is based on the stereotypical assumptions about gay men and femininity. Consequently, researchers at the University of Texas explored an alternate potential explanation: Straight women may develop friendships with ga
Many gay men grew up feeling ashamed of not conforming to cultural expectations about “real boys” or “real men.” Especially during middle and high university, they may contain been bullied or publicly humiliated because of their difference—made to feel prefer outsiders and not “one of the boys.” They may have found it easier relating to women than men, though they didn’t fully belong to the girl group, either.
Every gay male I’ve seen in my practice over the years has had a conflicted, troubled relationship with his own masculinity, often shaping his behavior in destructive ways. Writing for Vice, Jeff Leavell captures the dynamic nicely: “Queer people, especially gay men, are known for dealing with a slew of self-doubts and anxieties in noxious ways. Gay men are liable to feel incredibly insecure over their masculinity, a considerate of internalized homophobia that leads them to idolize 'masc 4 masc', 'gaybros' and [to] shame and oppress femme men.”
Here we witness one of the most common defenses against shame: getting rid of it by offloading or projecting it onto somebody else; in this case, one