Twinks with older men
Most of the aging process doesn’t scare me. The plan of having gray hair is invigorating, so long as I still include hair when that time comes. I think my smirk lines make me look dashing in some lights. (In others, like Annabelle.) I have no reason to contact my toes, so no biggie there. If I close up aging anything like my mother, I’ll have shut to zero complaints.
What does scares me though, is the idea of being an old twink. Here's a verb course for my beloved straight readers: In the gay community, there are different sub-categories of gays. I’m not exactly sure how they came to be, but surely it has something to do with the innate depend on to group things together by category. (Think #organizationporn.) Whatever the reason, a multitude of factors play into how you’re sorted, but by large, they come down to your age and body type.
A twink is a juvenile, skinny, typically hairless young gay noun like Justin Beiber.
A bear is an older, heavier arrange gay man with ample body and facial hair appreciate Ron Offerman.
An otter is like a bear but leaner like Zachary Quinto.
Those are just three
In defence of ageing twinks
There is a spectre haunting the gay community: the ‘ageing twink’. He is an protest of pity and scorn; tragi-comic and embittered, desperately clinging on to something, occasionally drug-ravaged or otherwise scarred by excess. There are countless Reddit threads where people talk about his unfortunate fate and how one might escape it: these conversations are staggeringly bleak, with some approaching the idea with vindictive relish and others, clearly anxious twinks themselves, engaging in something approaching digital self-harm; anticipating their own bodily deteriorate and permanent banishment from the world of desire. The ageing twink is mocked in front-facing comedy TikToks: “one day, you’ll forfeit your charm, you’ll be a husk just like me” hisses one 29-year-old character, while another bemoans that “23 is 40 in twink years”.
This concept that there’s something pitiful about being an ageing gay man has a long legacy. Seize Jacques, the middle-aged gay man in James Baldwin’s Giovanni’s Room (1956): “In some ways I liked him,” reflects the narrator. “He was s
Gruff daddies and curious punks...dominant teachers and eager students...cocky hustlers and yearning twinks…
The young men in these lustful stories are trying to find their way. Their mature lovers are more than willing to offer a hand – and much, much more!
The stories in this collection are sensual tales of older and younger men in extremely explicit situations. Stories involve dominance, submission, straight-to-gay, multiple partners, and cross-generational themes.
Boy in the Basement
“I’ve never been nice at telling him no.”
When his hunky husband Perry rents their basement apartment to a fresh-faced, innocent college teen, Jack knows that something naughty is afoot. What older man could resist a supple, sexy little twink fancy Nathan? Certainly not Perry, for whom no man is off-limits.
But Jack can never deny his husband’s desires.
“The hubby told me that you like to service, if you know what I mean.”
Boyish Nathan isn’t as innocent as he seems. Though straight, he knows the effect he has on men. Handsome Nathan isn’t afraid to verb his good looks and chiseled bod
Thomas Gass, a dentist in California, has survived the curse—twice. The curse? Gass is a gay man whose only sexual attraction is to men significantly older than he is.
Gass lost his first partner, 28 years his senior, through the leisurely deteriorating effects of Lou Gehrig’s disease after they had been together for 13 years. After recovering from his grief, he create love again with a man 18 years older but endured another tragic loss when his second partner died of pancreatic cancer after they had spent 17 years together. Still a relatively young dude, Gass might wonder whether or not to take a chance on loving an older human again. For him, however, the choice is between an older man or no man at all. Gass and his friends—all of whom had lost older life partners—have labeled their abiding sexual attraction “the curse of being attracted to older men.”
I began to study same-sex relationships with age disparities while conducting explore for my guide, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight. Gass and I started to correspond after he and his friends had read and discussed my essay