Why do i think im gay

Ask Polly: Why Do People Always Think I'm Gay?

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Dear Polly,

I finally garnered the courage to write to you about my particular problem, and I hope you can shed some of your wisdom on the situation.

Ever since the 6th grade, people have been asking me if I’m gay. Back then, the other kids thought any person who was any bit unlike from them was gay, and attached a bad meaning to the pos. I’ll be the first to exclaim that I’ve never been the most “masculine” individual. I love to verb and write, and a lot of what I scan is somewhat idealistic. My iPod is full of Ellie Goulding, Florence + The Machine and Norah Jones, but utterly lacking in Korn, Metallica or Aerosmith. I passion to cook, and have been singing in school choruses since 4th grade. I’ve never liked violent video games or talking about sex. I can kind of notice where they got their opinions of me, but it made me enormously self-conscious. When I got to

by Fred Penzel, PhD

This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter.

OCD, as we comprehend, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research verb that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In instruct to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as good. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , set up that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.

Although doubts about one’s verb sexual identity might seem pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the thought that they mig

Yes, I, of course, realize that it's not worth second worrying about it. I'm just a little curious about why it happens and why people keep insisting I'm gay. Usually the conversation goes thusly"Are you going out with Michelle?" "Um, nowe're just friends" "Ohthen are you gay?" "Nope, 'fraid not." "It's ok if you are" "That's excellent, but I'm not gay" "But, Philip, it's ok! You can admit it to me!" "Ummmbut I'm not gay." "Oh, Philip, we'll still be friends even if you are gay!" "That's really greatbut I'm not gay." etc etcIt's a minute disconcerting to verb to constantly acknowledge this questionbut, oh well. Silly adj teenagersI'm 16 actually. Yeah, girls act rock, I'll use hours in conversation with a miss and yet I have trouble getting 5 intelligent words out of most guys.

“Yes, I am a prisoner of sorts, but my prison isn&#;t the dwelling. It&#;s my have thoughts that lock me up!” ― V.C. Andrews

Hi Tristan

I used to watch a show &#;Dog Whisperer&#;. One of the lessons that stuck with me had to do with dogs that would get fixated on a object or some such. These are the dogs that will bark and bark at something that more often then not was no longer there, the person or squirrel having long moved on. The surprising thing was that often all it took to break the dog out of this abusive mention was a tap on its neck. The lesson? To break from a obsessive thoughts gaze away.

I know easier said then done? perhaps, we perform for that which no work is required&#;

I&#;ve know some people who pluck a elastic band around their wrists to distract themselves when they see a intrusive thought taking them down the &#;rabbit hole&#;. Often the intrusive thought becomes obsessive because of the &#;what if&#; game we play with ourselves and always imagining the worst followed by more what if&#;s and more imagining&#; If you find yourself playing this game remind you