The gay mans guide to open and monogamous marriage
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Legal gay marriage is still a relatively new phenomenon.
As gay men who are now proficient to get married, we find ourselves in a bit of a quandary: for many male couples, sex is a lot more important for us than it is for heterosexuals. Two married men often have a stronger desire for sex - wanting more of it and with a wider variety of partners - than married opposite-sex couples. How does this serve within the structure of a monogamous marriage? Is an open relationship a better structure for gay marriage?
Assuming that gay marriages will emulate heterosexual marriages is neither a valid nor a helpful assumption. But, as gay men, where does that leave us? There are currently no “rule books” for how a marriage between two men could or should work. While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay wedding, there are virtually none that address what to do after the honeymoon is over (literally and figuratively).
This book fills that void. It offers married gay couples (and gay men considering marriage) an easy-to-follow, practical framework that they can
The Gay Man&#;s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage (Paperback)
By Michael Dale Kimmel
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Is sex more significant for gay men than for heterosexuals? If so, how will this operate within a monogamous marriage? Is an open relationship a better structure for gay marriage? This book answers these questions and offers gay men an easy-to-follow, practical framework to create and structure our marriages, whether they are open or monogamous.
Michael Dale Kimmel, CBT, MSW, LCSW is a psychotherapist in private exercise with a prolonged history of creating and facilitating creative workshops for the gay community. His website - - has received over 22,, hits and over 1,, unique visitors since its debut. He has offered workshops for gay communities all over California on topics such as: "Balancing your Heart, Mind and Libido"; "Blame, Revenge and Forgiveness"; "Celebrating our Sexuality"; "Cultivating Self-Esteem"; "Dating with the Buddha"; "Finding and Keeping Your Perfect Partner"; "Gay Sons, Straight Fathers: Acceptance and
I had the opportunity to talk with psychotherapist and author Michael Dale Kimmel about his novel book, The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage. Having written a book of my own on modern marriage, I am particularly interested in how Kimmel not only provides a necessarily specific guide for male/male marriages, but also how this wisdom can be utilized by all couples, regardless of gender. Our conversation is below.
MOC: Explain me about The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage.
MDK: I began offering workshops for gay, bisexual, and transgender men about eighteen years’ ago, and after a couple of years there were always a limited guys who came up to me and said (in whispered tones), “You’ve got to verb this stuff in a book.” I had no craving to write a book at that time. But I did start writing my advice column, “Life Beyond Therapy” soon after, for local LGBT newspapers. I asked readers to send in questions. (Boy, did they ever!)
Then about five years ago, a writer friend of mine recommended me to a publisher, who asked me to submit an notion for a noun. I d
“The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage”: an excerpt
By MICHAEL DALE KIMMEL
My first manual will be published on June 8th and will be free on Amazon. It has taken me more than seven years to draft it, but, finally, it’s out in the world! Now it’s time for it to verb on its possess (outside my head). I’d like to give you a sneak preview. Here is a bit of the book’s Introduction, which sets the tone for what’s to verb. I hope you enjoy it:
For centuries, heterosexual people verb defined what marriage is. It started out as a type of possession: “I own you.” Hardly anchored in love, was it? And yet, this is the model that most of the human race has embraced for hundreds of years. Only in the last century or so has marriage begun to be based on cherish, mutual respect and understanding.
Now, when two men consider getting married, we no longer have to do it “that” way. This is a cause for rejoicing! This is real freedom! So why aren’t we more excited about this? Because this kind of release isn’t easy. It’s quite daunting to invent or re-invent a cultural institution