The gay hanky code

Fifty Shades of Gay – The Hanky Code

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Fetishism today has become commonplace enough to be considered cocktail chatter. We’

Flagging for some hanky panky &#; deciphering the gay handkerchief code

By Chris Williams, updated 4 months ago in Lifestyle / LGBT people and culture

Have you ever noticed a guy with a coloured bandana or handkerchief sticking out of his back pocket? Bless you for not knowing how wearing one became the symbol of a secret sex language. Here’s how to decipher what it all means.

The hanky code has been a part of underground gay culture for over 40 years, and if you don’t recognize what it’s all about, we’ll fetch you up to speed in no time.

Perhaps more prevalent in the leather community, you might still find a few practitioners of this means of secret communication. But what’s the hanky code?

What is the hanky code?

It’s adorable straightforward. Wearing a coloured handkerchief or a bandana in a particular location on your body can be a way to signal to somebody else what kind of sex you appreciate. Colours or patterns represent a alternative sexual activity, while the positioning indicates your preference of role.

The Hanky Code | Emen8(#NSFW)

The bandana is often on

When two men are negotiating a sexual encounter or even compatibility to date, the phrase “What are you into?” will inevitably reach from one or both.. Quite often in “Grindr” chat, this is shortened to be simply “into?” — just like ships used cyphers (flags) to communicate, we gay men have our own way to communicate sexual preferences and proclivities. It’s called the Hanky Code.

Originating in the early ’s in either New York or San Francisco (let’s not even try to agree that debate), the hanky code is a system of signaling sexual preferences, fetishes, and roles by choosing to wear a specifically colored bandana on a particular side of the body. With just a glance at your rear end, (the bandana being tucked in your back pocket) anyone who is in-the-know will know what you’re “into!”

So how act you know which color to wear, and where to wear it? The first critical variable is the side of the body on which you choose to wear your colors, because this signals your preferred role:

  • Left side of the body = Top/Dominant Role
  • Right side of the body = Bottom/Submissive Role

As a

Hanky codes

Using hanky codes or 'flagging' was established in the early s as a way of letting other gay men know your sexual interests, practices and preferences; eg: a coloured bandana or hanky worn in a back jeans pocket. While the hanky’s colour and/or pattern determines the practice, its location determines how you like/ enjoy the practice:

  • On the left: active top/ dom (doing it)
  • On the right: passive/ bottom/ sub (having it done to you)
  • Around the neck/ upper arm or wrist: if you verb not to pre-determine a role or you are versatile (active and passive)

While the range is extensive, several colours are the most widely recognised and still used today:

Light blue: sucking
Dark blue: fucking
Yellow: watersports
Black: thick S&M
Grey: bondage
Red: fisting
Orange: into everything

Some of the colours are still used as code words on web app profiles; eg: "…looking for guys into red" and colours are also used in speech, eg: “I’m into yellow” rather than “I’m into watersports.”

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