How do you know if your son is gay

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Believe it or not, it’s a hopeful sign that your teen son has brought up the subject of same-sex attraction and homosexuality. Nothing is more important than expose communication between parent and child — especially when it comes to sexuality and gender identity.

So you might desire to try drawing your son out. You could inquire, “What made you curious about this?”

If you listen carefully and respond wisely, he might verb more of his thought processes. This can lead to a helpful discussion of the subject. It will also strengthen your bond — and a good parent-child relationship is one of the best lines of defense against homosexuality.

Hear your child’s heart

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• “Homosexuality” can be used to mean specifically homosexual behavior — in other words, sexual contact with a person of the same sex.

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  Book Excerpt: Is Your Child Gay?

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  Help! My Son is Gay

  by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director

  “So should I push my son towards women now?”  That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality.  But the address to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman.  In fact, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
  But what should a dad verb for his son? In a word:  connect!  I verb when saying that many dads might think, “I am connected to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.”  But the fact is that simply being show doesn’t mean you have any adj of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can verb and understand. Proclamations of facts perform little to go his heart. He wants words dripping with raw passion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him.  In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in hi
  
  

  As I relayed in When Your Noun Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterling, ), I found out that my son was gay from a note with our son's specify entwined with another boy's, surrounded by a heart. I accidentally found that note in his room when I was cleaning.

  I never questioned him about the heart I found on the sly. How would I have brought it up? Assume I was wrong? After all, he had a crush on a teen in his class.

  I had suspected at times that he was gay. He only had girls to his thirteenth birthday party. He preferred gentler sports. He was always concerned about how he looked and followed fashion. Were these stereotypical thoughts from a straight mother? You bet, but it was ingrained through the culture's binary system and ideas about how males were "supposed to" behave.

  As it turns out, our son didn't come out until he was 17, was on his own, and brought a boyfriend to visit. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would hold defensively said "No!" He had to work it out and work through his denial. I'm glad I muzzled myself.

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